Why can't I change my personality so that people like me more?

I really wanted to start with the burden of self. The burden of self is the reality that comes on us in our early 20s to mid-20s, sometimes in high school to some degree, that we may not be everybody's cup of tea. In fact, myself, having kind of maybe more of a polarizing personality, realizes that I can provoke strong reactions in either direction, and I don't know how to mitigate that. And the reality is that the burden of self is the reality of who we are, created by God. But it's also the reality that sometimes, like in my own life, my personality wasn't really affirmed growing up. I didn't have a strong father figure. He didn't really teach me who I was and why I was the way that I was, and who I am and how that is unique to me personally. And so the burden of self is the reality that we start to realize that we can't change ourselves. St Paisios once said there's no cure for personality. It's intrinsic to who we are. And I can speak from experience with my own sons. Personality is set from a very young age. It may develop, and character and maturity also develop, but core tenets of a personality, they're somewhere very very very young in a person's existence. They may even be, in some regard, formed in the womb. And so I want to take that burden all the way through to where you realize it's not a burden, but it's in fact a strength.